Loneliness is one of those things that can effect anyone at any time in our lives. When most people think about loneliness, however, they think about being alone. That is true, but not all the time. Sometimes we can feel lonely with many people. I think that feeling roots in others not really knowing who you truly are. You wish to share that information with people, but you’re afraid; afraid of ridicule, afraid of not being accepted, afraid of pushing people away.
Some of the loneliest times I have had were in college. These times usually revolved around the beginning of the school year when everyone was excited to get to know everyone/see everyone again, and weekends. I dreaded weekends when I couldn’t go home. I dreaded the weekends that I had to stay here and be surrounded by social people when I didn’t feel like being social, but also didn’t want to be…lonely. I can’t count the number of times that I have felt this way because I thought people were living life better than me by going out. But the truth is that we’re not alone! There are many people who feel the exact same way. And even when we do muster the courage to go out, we may feel a sense of anxiety thinking that, “these people don’t really know me”.
It isn’t until you meet those positive people that attempt to get to know your heart that the feeling of loneliness fades. People such as those are very hard to come by, but when you find them it’s important to hang on to them and tell them how they make you feel. How do you meet such people? It probably isn’t at a large party of drunk people. Sometimes you meet them randomly, and sometimes they’re someone you’ve known for a while but never really talked to. The idea is to be open and willing to put your heart out there for those few people that could change your life. I know, that can be terrifying! But it’s worth the shot. They may not break the loneliness completely, but they can start to make you feel a little less lonely.
Some of my closest friends came out of my loneliest times. I knew who was there for me and who wasn’t. I met some people that have changed my life for the better, and I don’t know where I would be without them. They may not all be in close proximity now, but I feel warm just knowing that they are there for me. I still have days and weekend nights where I feel lonely, but I remind myself of the love I have and that other people are sitting in bed watching Netflix too.